The life of a youth is often swathed in problems. These problems are often encountered in day-to-day living which most of the time can hinder our progress in life if we give in to the circumstances. The word Problem according to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary is defined as “a thing that is difficult to deal with or understand”. This basically means dealing with choices of action difficult either for an individual or for society at large. From this sense, it can be deduced that “a problem can also lead to progress”. Oh yes! That’s how I perceive it. I know this statement must beg the question; how? You see, Problems could come in different forms but may exist from two sources. One being “naturally” presented (illness, ambush, and economy etcetera) and the other are being “man-made”, that is to intentionally invent one. Therefore, trying to come up or even coming up with a desire or dream to shape your future is a problem on its own since at first it is “a thing that will appear difficult to deal with or understand” considering every obstacle that could jeopardize this plan. Hence, all problems, irrespective of the source, seek attention for solution. Now, depending on how to decide to deal with these “problems”, the end result can be fruitful, as in lead to a prolific outcome if you decide to deal with them with a positive attitude and with the motive to proffer solutions that can be withholding and beneficial.
HOW TO GO ABOUT IT?
Well, steps toward finding Solutions to a problem depend on the magnitude of the problem. Problems could be corrosive and immediate (acute) or mild and prolonged (chronic), which requires a necessary urgent solution or a necessary later solution either way. To some it is a habit at all times to share their problem no matter the kind, recalling the dictum “a problem shared is half solved” while to some they prefer tackling it alone. Notwithstanding, there are problems that do need support from others whom they deem worthy to help where also divine contact is constant. Now, the question is why is it hard for people to help push someone away from a problem?
“imperfection is a beauty, madness is a genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring” – Stephen Chbousky
It is a common experience to us that when we open up our problem to another (not all), they blithely handle it and make you feel more confused unaware, rendering even your initial organization of the whole thing “higgledy-piggledy” except you stand firm. Even if no advice is available to give, at least to show some care, there should be a way of “ironing” the issue to leave it neutral but refreshed. Thus it is suggested, before approaching anybody for some help to a problem, make sure you courageously brainstorm on the issue at hand to come up with strong reasons to keep you moving. (And in the process of presenting the issue it is natural to start realizing more cool ideas or have a filter of your own initial thoughts.) Therefore at any point in time, we should imbibe the culture of listening to each other. Of course no one is perfect but as Stephen Chbosky said “imperfection is a beauty, madness is a genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring”.
Looking at it from the other angle, some reasons why people don’t even give a listening ear to our problem let alone suggesting a solution is that, some of us who present with problems checkmating our lives tend to pay deaf ears to solutions proffered by a caring individual. Another reason could be the dilemma of having different opposing suggestions on your shoulders to weigh, which may be as a result of consulting too many persons or the right and at the same time the wrong “therapist” for such type of problem and if in the end one happens to choose what one thinks suits him/her it could provoke more problems, making the right therapist feel insulted or mocked. Also, one will be left at ground zero at the end; not having achieved or resolved anything.
TO WRAP IT UP
Nowadays in the society, it appears everyone craves for better youths so as to reduce the rate of poor minds toward developing the nation tomorrow. On the other hand, the youths always complain about the government and rely completely on the government to help colour their future instead of focusing to look for the right dots to connect. They sort of prefer to be spoon fed which is a Herculean task for a Government which has so much on her shoulders. This will hinder nation building as the citizens are not doing anything to help the nation progress rather some sit and wail while others sleep on the problems. This attitude leads to nothing. Mind you the government is already furnished and so blaming them all day and year would yield nothing significant in the future lives of the young and old. This should awaken the youth to embrace teamwork – not for destruction though and let the government be the ones in need of you for good. Be the change that you wish to see in the world.
So, when seeking advice one has to do it with care. Some people might end up weighing you down instead of helping you out. Sometimes people with negative thoughts and energy can lead people into crime, distracting them from their career pursuit and catalyzing their downfall. To those who tend to be daunters and have that negative vibe to them and to the society at large, I ask, how then do we become the one mouth nation we crave for? How do we expect to hear of great discoveries from our own irrespective of the country we come from? How do we curtail the loud cry in the land and stop the tears? How do we expect to reduce laziness in the land?
These are questions we need to ponder on and seek within us a light that will brighten the future of our society. We shouldn’t be “gloom factories” in our communities. Adopt! The sense of positivity.
We all have that inherent ability to choose what’s right
Simply, let’s struggle within us to encourage others in any form we can do it best. We should really try to make the right choice or every good out of every problem. Quoting actor Captain Jack Sparrow of the pirate of the Caribbean as saying “the problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem, do you understand?” And also, “The seas may be rough, but I am the Captain! No matter how difficult I will always prevail”. So let’s take the bull by the horn and face our fears. We all have that inherent ability to choose what’s right when making judgments after being struck by a problem. No matter what faith you follow, prayer is the key to every problem. Seek divine help and believe that God’s help is near.